For a long time, the microphone at the reception belonged to the groom, the best man and the fathers. More brides are now taking it too. A short speech from the bride can be one of the most moving moments of the day, especially when she thanks the people who raised her.
Is it expected?
A bride’s speech is optional. Some couples give a joint speech; some brides speak alone; others prefer not to speak at all. Do what feels right for you, and tell your MC in advance so the programme allows time.
Keep it short
Two to four minutes is enough. Guests appreciate brevity, especially late in a long reception.
Thank people
Begin by thanking guests for coming. Thank your parents for raising you and supporting the wedding, and thank your new in-laws for welcoming you into their family. Mention your bridesmaids, the friends who helped and anyone who travelled far.
Talk about your husband
Share a short story about your husband: a moment when you knew he was the one, something he does that makes you laugh, or a quality you admire. Keep it warm and personal. Avoid private details that might embarrass him in front of elders.
Remember those absent
If a parent or close relative has died, a brief mention can honour them. Keep it gentle.
Add a little humour
A light joke helps relax you and your audience. Make sure it is suitable for everyone in the room, including pastors and children.
End with a toast
Close by inviting guests to raise their glasses to your husband, your families or love. Use a non-alcoholic toast if that suits your event.
Practise
Practise your speech out loud several times. Use small cards with key points rather than reading every word. Practise in your shoes and with a microphone if possible.
Breathe
Nerves are normal. Pause before you begin, look at a friendly face, and speak slowly. Guests are on your side.
Write it early
Draft your speech a few weeks before the wedding, when you have time to reflect. The last days before the wedding are too busy for writing.
Brides are often photographed all day and heard very little. A short speech gives the woman at the centre of the day the chance to speak for herself.
