The groom rarely speaks at his own traditional wedding. Instead, a respected elder from his family stands, greets the bride’s family with proverbs and begins the formal exchange. On the other side, the bride’s family has its own speaker. At Akan ceremonies, this role is often called the okyeame, a title that also refers to the linguist who speaks for a chief. The spokespersons shape the mood of the whole event.
The okyeame and his role
In Akan tradition, the okyeame is the chief’s spokesperson, who conveys the chief’s words to the public. At weddings, families borrow the idea, choosing an eloquent elder to speak on their behalf. Speaking through a spokesperson shows respect and formality. It allows sensitive matters, such as the list of items or concerns, to be handled with diplomacy rather than directly between the couple’s parents.
The spokespersons open the ceremony with greetings, often using proverbs and humour. A skilled speaker can make guests laugh while keeping the tone respectful.
The negotiation and calling the bride
The bride’s family spokesperson may question the groom’s family playfully, ask for more drinks or point out missing items. The groom’s spokesperson responds with good humour and sometimes extra cash. The spokesperson announces each item presented, from drinks to cloth, and the bride’s family confirms receipt. At the key moment, the spokesperson asks for the bride to be brought out and may ask whether she accepts the marriage.
Families usually choose an uncle or respected elder who knows the customs and speaks well. Some families hire experienced professionals who perform the role at many weddings.
Language, timing and briefing your spokesperson
Speeches are often in Twi, Fante or another local language. If guests do not understand, an MC may translate key moments. A good spokesperson keeps the ceremony moving and avoids long delays. Ewe, Ga and other Ghanaian groups also use family spokespersons with their own titles and customs. Families often give the spokesperson a token of appreciation after the ceremony.
Before the ceremony, sit with your spokesperson to explain any sensitive family matters, the items you have prepared and the time limits set by the venue. Couples spend months planning outfits and decorations. The person who speaks for the family often does more than anyone else to make the traditional wedding memorable.
