Few wedding decisions start more arguments than the bridesmaids’ dresses. One friend hates the colour, another cannot afford the fabric, and a third has quietly sent her measurements to a different seamstress. With some planning, most of that drama can be avoided.
Decide who pays first
Before choosing anything, settle the money. In some weddings the bride pays for the bridesmaids’ outfits. In others, each bridesmaid pays for her own, which is common when the outfit is part of an aso ebi or family cloth arrangement. Be honest about it from the start. Asking a friend to spend a large sum on a dress she did not choose can damage a friendship.
Choose a colour palette
Matching dresses in the same colour look neat in photographs. A palette of related shades lets each bridesmaid pick the tone that suits her skin. Deep colours such as emerald, burgundy and navy tend to flatter a wide range of skin tones and photograph well under hall lights.
One fabric, different styles
A popular approach in Ghana and Nigeria is to give every bridesmaid the same fabric and let each one sew her own style with a seamstress. It respects different body shapes and comfort levels while keeping the group coordinated. Set some rules, such as length and neckline, so nobody turns up in a mini dress when everyone else is floor length.
Think about the venue and season
Heavy satin and velvet are uncomfortable at an afternoon outdoor wedding. Chiffon, crepe and lighter fabrics breathe better. If there will be a lot of dancing, avoid very tight cuts and trains.
Shoes and accessories
Agree on shoes and accessories as well. Decide whether bridesmaids should match exactly or choose their own within a colour. If the bride is providing jewellery or headpieces as gifts, tell the bridesmaids so they do not buy their own.
Give clear deadlines
Set dates for buying fabric, delivering it to seamstresses and holding a final fitting. Bridesmaids who sew separately should finish at least two weeks before the wedding so there is time to fix problems.
Include everyone
Pregnant bridesmaids, those with religious dress requirements and those with disabilities may need different cuts. Discuss this privately and kindly. A bridal party looks united when everyone feels comfortable, not when everyone is uncomfortable in the same dress.
Your bridesmaids are standing beside you because they are your closest friends. Choose dresses that let them enjoy the day, and they will still be your friends when the photos come back.
