On the wedding morning, the bride has a makeup artist, a photographer and a room full of helpers. The groom often has a suit bag and a friend who overslept. He needs a plan too.
The night before
Lay out everything: suit, shirt, tie or bow tie, shoes, socks, belt, cufflinks, handkerchief, rings and any traditional wear for later. Charge your phone. Eat a proper meal and go to bed early. This is not the night for a late party.
Morning: wake up and eat
Wake up early enough to avoid rushing. Eat a real breakfast, because you may not eat properly again until the reception. Drink water. A short walk or quiet prayer can calm nerves.
Grooming
Get a haircut and shave a day or two before, not on the morning, to avoid cuts and irritation. On the day, shower, moisturise, and use a light fragrance. Ask a barber for a quick touch-up if possible.
Getting dressed
Allow at least an hour. The photographer and videographer usually want shots of the groom getting ready, with groomsmen fixing ties and buttons. Check that the rings are with the best man.
Leaving for church
Aim to arrive at the church or venue at least thirty minutes before the bride. Greet the officiant, confirm the order of service, and take your place calmly. The groom arriving late is one of the worst starts to a wedding.
The ceremony
Stand straight, breathe, and look at your bride when she walks in. Listen to the officiant and repeat vows slowly. If you forget a line, the officiant will help.
Photos
After the ceremony, there are photos with families, the wedding party and the couple. Be patient; it can take an hour. Keep a handkerchief for sweat in the heat.
The reception
Greet guests, especially elders and your in-laws. Eat when food is served; the best man should make sure you do. Many grooms change into a traditional outfit or lighter clothes for dancing.
Speeches
If you are giving a speech, keep it short and sincere. Thank God, your parents, your in-laws, the wedding party and guests. End by honouring your wife.
The best man’s job
The best man should carry the rings, keep time, handle problems, gather the groomsmen and keep the groom calm. He is the groom’s chief of staff.
The end of the night
Plan how you will leave the reception and where you will spend the night. Pack a small bag in advance.
The bride will remember the moment she walked in. The groom should too, which means arriving early, calm and ready to look up.
