For many Ghanaian brides, the engagement dress gets more attention than the white gown. The traditional ceremony is where the families meet, the drinks are accepted and the marriage is sealed, and the bride’s outfit is at the centre of every photograph. Here is how to choose what to wear for the knocking and the engagement.
The knocking: simple and respectful
The knocking is a small family visit, and the bride-to-be is not always present for the whole of it. When she is, the outfit should be modest and neat rather than dramatic. A well-made kaba and slit in a print or a simple lace, a long dress or a smart two-piece is enough. The aim is to look respectful in front of elders.
If the knocking and engagement are on the same day, the bride usually wears her main engagement outfit, since the two ceremonies run into each other.
The main engagement outfit
The classic engagement outfit in Ghana is a kaba and slit, often made from kente. The kaba, a fitted blouse with sleeves or a sweetheart neckline, and the slit, a long fitted skirt, are paired with a matching wrap or a long train. Brides from Akan families often wear Asante kente, while Ewe brides may choose Ewe kente in their family’s preferred colours.
Lace is the other main choice. Heavy beaded lace kaba with a long train, often in gold, wine, royal blue or emerald, is popular for brides who want sparkle. Some brides combine the two: a lace kaba with a kente slit, or a kente corset with lace sleeves.
The groom’s outfit should match. Couples usually buy their fabric together and give it to the same designer, or to two designers working from the same pictures.
Accessories that complete the look
Engagement looks are finished with accessories. Many Akan brides wear gold jewellery, including necklaces, bracelets and earrings, sometimes borrowed from family. Krobo brides may wear glass beads, which are part of their tradition. Beaded necklaces and headpieces are popular across Ghana.
Head coverings vary. Some brides wear a head wrap or a gele, the tall, structured headtie popular at Nigerian weddings. Others keep their hair styled and uncovered, with a hair accessory or beads. Shoes are usually low heels or flats, since engagements often take place in a family compound or on a lawn.
The second outfit change
Many brides change at least once during the engagement. The first outfit is usually the formal kente or lace look for the presentation of items and the acceptance of the drinks. After that, the bride may change into a lighter outfit for the meal and the dancing.
The second outfit can be a shorter dress, a different colour of the same fabric, or a modern style such as a jumpsuit or a corset dress. Some brides use it to show a second family cloth, honouring both sides.
Planning your engagement dress
Start three to four months before the date if you are working with a designer, and earlier for December and Easter weddings, when designers are busiest. Buy your fabric early too, since popular kente patterns and laces can sell out.
Book at least two fittings. Beaded lace and kente are heavy, so check the weight, the fit around the waist and how easy it is to sit, stand and kneel. You may kneel before elders during the ceremony.
Finally, think about the weather and the venue. An outdoor engagement in the afternoon sun is hot, and a heavy beaded outfit can be uncomfortable after a few hours. A shaded seating area and a lighter second outfit make the day easier, and leave you looking fresh in the evening photos.
